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Choosing an app

Best porn blocker for iPhone: how to choose

Start with the free Screen Time filter, then compare the four kinds of iPhone porn blocker by what each one misses. Includes where Monke Reset fits.

Oct 6, 20266 min read

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Choosing an app
Covenant Eyes alternative for iPhone
Covenant Eyes sends your activity to an ally. Monke Reset keeps it on your phone. How the two models differ, and who should stay with Covenant Eyes.
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How blocking works
How to block NSFW content on iPhone
Turn off NSFW content in X, Reddit, Instagram and TikTok, then limit the apps themselves with Screen Time. Paths checked against each help center.
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Choosing an app
QUITTR alternative: what each app does
QUITTR, Brainbuddy, Seed and Monke Reset compared from their own App Store listings: community, blocking, accounts, and who each one suits.
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The moment itself
Porn relapse often starts on a social feed
In 4,876 first-hand accounts from a recovery community, 211 mention a social feed or scrolling and 17 name a porn site. What that gap means for blocking.
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Naming the problem
Why people drop out of quit-porn programmes
The only trial of online self-help for problematic porn use reported large effects and 89.4% dropout. Why the dropout is the more useful number.
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The moment itself
How to stop a porn urge in the first minute
Deciding during an urge is the part that fails. How to choose your response in advance, what the evidence supports, and what to set up tonight.
Sep 1, 20264 min read
Naming the problem
What happens when you quit porn: the evidence
Week-by-week timelines for quitting porn were written, not measured. What research has studied, what it hasn’t, and how to read the gap.
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Counting the days
Why Monke Reset has no leaderboard
Research finds progress reported publicly works better than progress kept private. Why Monke Reset keeps the streak private anyway, and what that costs.
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Counting the days
How many days to break a habit? Not 21
Twenty-one days is not a research finding. The measured median was 66 days, the range 18 to 254, and one missed day did not derail the process.
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Naming the problem
ICD-11 CSBD (6C72): is porn addiction real?
WHO's ICD-11 has no porn addiction diagnosis. Compulsive sexual behaviour disorder, code 6C72, is an impulse control disorder. What qualifies, and why.
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How blocking works
Porn filter vs DNS vs app blocker on iPhone
App blockers, DNS filters and the system content filter fail in different places: a switched app, a switched network, or the Screen Time passcode.
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Counting the days
Why do I keep relapsing on day 2 or 3?
Most attempts end on day two or three, not day ninety. The loop is a slip, then feeling awful, then a written-off day. What to do before and after a slip.
Aug 29, 20266 min read

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